What to do (or not to do) when your son’s been Inhabited by a Minecraft...
You want to make your life exceedingly challenging? Do what I just did. Ban your child from accessing electronics for an entire weekend. Oh yeah, this was necessary. The original offense was playing on...
View ArticleSpare the rod, but don’t spoil the child…
I’m happy to report that my weekend from hell paid off. It was a small victory. My son learned a little about his powers of self-restraint, boundaries and the importance of staying connected in real...
View ArticleRegrets, I’ve had a few, but then again…
When you look back on your life, you’ll regret the things you didn’t do more than the ones you did.- H.Jackson Brown, Jr. The other day, I heard a similar sentiment articulated on the radio and I...
View ArticleEmpty Spaces
In the parking lot of my local market, there’s a space that sits directly across from the store’s entrance. It’s a rock star parking space; the kind you tend to get an ego boost from when you’re lucky...
View ArticleChange or Die?
Self-acceptance vs. Change I’ve been wondering as I sift through the barrage of platitudes on facebook, twitter, and various blogs, am I to accept myself and my strengths and weaknesses? Or am I to...
View ArticleHoly shit! I’m making a date. To mediate!
So, in light of all of my recent angst and the ever-mounting signs from the universe that I should finally get my divorce proceedings started, I am making an appointment with a mediator for next...
View ArticleFuture Lovers
Before my husband left, I thought I was frigid. For real. After my husband left, I was like a cat on a hot tin roof, barely able to sleep, so desperate for his touch (or anyone’s for that matter)....
View ArticleThe Absentee Father sure has a lot to say about my parenting skills!
My ex bought my kids iphones. Waaay before I ever would have. And that was a few years ago. The ex complains that they use their phones too much (bills are too high). I start enforcing rules and field...
View ArticleSometimes people can surprise you (and me)…
In all fairness to the ex, I should relay that we managed to make peace after the phone debacle. He called me that night to discuss something money related and in the course of that conversation, I was...
View ArticleParent Gushing Facebook Translation
In light of the recent flurry of verbose parents’ ranting status updates about their fabulous children on Facebook, here is my translation of the subtext of said posts: My child is so utterly...
View ArticleStarting Over
I want to start over. Find friends who don’t know my ex. That probably means moving somewhere new. He knows too many people. I want to start over. Know myself as myself again. Not as his ex. Or as this...
View Article5 Reasons to Come Down Off That Ledge!
Five Things To Remember When You Are Feeling your Worst- 5. You have felt happiness before and you WILL surely feel it again. 4. Life is short, with a max of around 100 years to put in total, you may...
View ArticleThe Ten Rules of Divorce Mediation
So after the first grueling hour of meeting with a mediator, I learned quite a lot. Now, the question is, will the ex and I follow these rules? 1. No fault divorce means No fault mediation. The...
View ArticleMeditation Revelation #1:
That’s meditation, not mediation. I started meditating today. In my half hour of stillness, one message emerged from the swirl of thoughts battling for recognition. I want to help people. It’s...
View ArticleRedefining Fatherhood
I had a birth father and I have a step-father. Both of them loved me. Both of them imparted wisdom. Both of them caused me a great deal of grief. The one I consider my real dad is my step-dad. the one...
View ArticleAll you need is love…Bum bum ba da dum…
By now, I’m not supposed to be a romantic. My heart has been broken to the point of what I thought was no return. I’m single-ish, separated and not even on the market because my life is too...
View ArticleMediation Interruptus
Since my ex and I met with the new mediator, a lot has happened. Well, a lot having to do with everything but getting divorced. It seems there is not enough money nor time for us to do this. With the...
View ArticleThe Pleasures and Perils of Sex with the Ex
It’s been a long time since I had sex, with anybody. I’ve given up on dating for now. So, as I’m not up for one night stands, it will probably be a while. I think about sex occasionally. I miss it...
View ArticleI, Cliché…
“Many people die at 25 and aren’t buried until they’re 75.” -Benjamin Franklin I saw this quote last night and it hit a nerve. I was around 25 when I began to tire of the quest for a fabulous life and...
View ArticleParenting in Ten Words
1. Love 2. No Privacy (okay that’s two words but I couldn’t find one word that captures the sentiment) 3. Culpability 4. Fucking Homework (two again…so sue me) 5. Vomit 6. Vulnerability 7. Despair 8....
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